Re : Comments on the post entitled "Relationship"(stapokfamily blogspot)

Since my comments are requested by author, i got heaps of ideas in mind...haha...comment column is probably too small to fit in those ideas...Okie...Before that, i would like to make it clear that i am not trying to pick up anyone from our family as long as friends around us..Basically in everyday life, we actually meet people from all walks of life, as we can see, there are lots of differents ways of doing things, any of them can be neither totally correct nor totally wrong...Well then, what is the correct thing to do?We do think about all the possibilities, but can anyone be 100% about "their hypothesis and conclusion"?Not even scientists...

Basic Case Study

Conflict
I had a fight with someone at school, it is so serious that my school principal would like to have a coffee with my parents. But my parents are always busy with their work, got not much free time. So they felt quite annoying knowing that they have got "unfinishing work" to do, yet have to "spend" or "waste" time having coffee with my principal. So i was badly scolded, but they did not realised that the truth is, i was not the one who started the fight.

Possibilities from children

• Work is their only important part of life?
• I am not listening to them by having fight with someone else at school?
• Who cares about me?
• I was so called "neglected children"?
• Am i not good enough?
• Do i have to do something so that they's gonna pay attention to me?Maybe a little bit more?
• I am sorry for causing more troubles
  

Possibilities from parents

• Why on earth that my children is not listening to me?
• Arent they know that i am busy making money?
• I need money to raise them, no ones understands that?
• I love paying attention to you and i am trying my best to
• A coffee?oh pleeasee...
• Who started the fight?
• Did i neglected my children?
  

Conclusion
Lack of understandings and confidence on each others

As we can see, lots and lots of different thoughts...well, probably missed out some of them as they did not cross my minds...haha

Back to topic
How do we solve this conflict?Heaps of solutions..but which one is the best?who assured that solution is the best?Can that solution really resolves every "faulty thoughts"?Neither you nor me..

Nevertheless, we actually have take a step back, step along those so called "left behind foot path", and think again. By doing this, we probably still missed out the best solutions, but the new solution generated would be a better ones...

On top of that, we are not to look for someone to be blamed, instead, LOOK FOR THE SOLUTIONS TO MAKE IT BETTER!

At the end of the day, under different circumstances, people do think differently, and that is affected by daily experiences and everything around us, we might or might not know their reasons, but we do not possessed the right to decide that, unless opinions are requested...everyone did what they think "suppossed to be the best.

Just a simple question is more than enough to explain everything.

"How do we look at the world around us?"

5 Survival Tips for everyone(my principle)..

1. Stays optimistic
2. Endurance & Determination
3. Do not spend time on unnecessary matters
   
4. Looks back for ONLY LESSONS and looks forward for ONLY IMPROVEMENT.
5. Of course, stays cheerful=)!
   

Good luck everyone...